His “prude” ideas
If you’re in an opposites attract type of situation and you’ve danced nude at concerts in the desert but your boyfriend would never so much as walk around in boxers in the gym locker room, don’t make your boyfriend sound like a prude to your friends. He might still be a fun accepting individual, but all your friends hear is, “Stuck up!” when you tell them things he’s conservative about.
His promiscuous past
Even if your boyfriend used to sleep with a different woman every night and you want to brag about being the one who tied him down, don’t do it. Next time your friends see him, they’ll just see him as a misogynist who objectifies women, and they’ll be looking for signs that he’s cheating on you around every corner.
His idiotic/slutty/unattractive exes
As a general rule, it’s not your place to judge your boyfriend’s exes. He broke up with them for a reason: he clearly recognizes they had their shortcomings. Talking to your friends about how his exes were all uneducated or unattractive reflects badly both on your guy (you’re saying he has bad taste!) and on you (again, you’re saying he has bad taste!).
Sexual dysfunction
There is nothing more emasculating for a guy than having anybody besides his partner or his doctor know he’s struggling to perform in the bedroom. Whether your friends mean to or not, they’ll give him sympathy puppy eyes when they see him if they know he’s failing in the bedroom.
Details of his member
How would you like it if your guy’s friends knew the exact type of wax you get and the smell and taste of your womanhood? Exactly.
His fears
You may think it’s cute that your guy has to cross the street if there is a dog on the sidewalk because he is terrified of them, but to him this fact just makes him look like less of a man.
His criticisms of your family or friends
As tempting as it may be, don’t use something negative your partner said about your family or friends to have more “ammunition” in an argument. Example: the statement “Mom, you’re so stubborn, even my boyfriend noticed it” won’t help anybody out.
How he fails as a homemaker
So guys aren’t always the greatest at knowing how to properly wash a dish, or where to store potatoes, or what to clean a stain with. Going on about this in front of your guy’s mother can come off as a criticism of the way she raised him.
His career struggles
Unless your guy explicitly asks you to help him get an interview or make some work connections, keep quiet if he’s struggling in his career. Nobody needs to know that he once again got passed up for the manager position at his job.
Any complaint you haven’t told him
As a courtesy to your partner, if there’s something you’d wish he’d change, tell him before you tell your friends. He deserves the chance to mend his wrongs before the public can criticize him for them.
His baby talk
Even the toughest of guys can be the sweetest, most docile people in the bedroom. If your guy has a totally adorable nickname for you that he says in a baby voice, just enjoy that privately. If he got wind that you told anybody about it, that’d be the last time you ever heard that nickname again.
That he’s seeing a therapist
Women are mostly okay with admitting when they’re overwhelmed by life, struggling with insecurities, or just need some help. Women swap stories about therapy sessions as easy as they talk about the weather. But men are very private about it if they’re seeing a therapist.
Situations in which he loses his temper/patience
The odds are your guy isn’t very proud of himself when he loses his temper with a server who has never heard of gluten before, or when he experiences serious road rage. He’s tough enough on himself for it after the fact: he doesn’t need others knowing that he loses his cool sometimes.
His political or religious views
Even if you and your guy have political or religious debates nightly, your guy knows his opinion is safe with you and your view of him won’t change. However, that’s because you know almost everything about your guy—you have an entire context in which to understand his views. Don’t bring up his views on something controversial or heated to strangers, or even your friends, who will judge him just on that conversation alone.
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