Whether you're the one doing
the dumping or the one getting dumped, breaking up is always hard to
do. Although you might feel as if you'll never get over this, you will.
STEPS
- Call all of your friends- even the ones you may have ignored
during your recent relationship-and make plans immediately. Now is not a
good time to be alone.
- Vent when the need arises.
Good friends will let you take out the photo album(again) and
cry(again) and rant(again)-and they'll still love you.
- Allow yourself time to grieve. If you don't let yourself wallow in
self pity for a while and mourn the good times lost, your heart may harden
to future relationships and love.
- Realise that this sadness will pass.
- Distract yourself with fun once you're tired of mourning. Movies, group
sports, group gist, classes or a favourite CD can help get your mind off
your loss.
- Indulge yourself when you're lonely. Try a massage, a weekend trip
away with a best friend, a new outfit, a haircut -whatever makes you feel
good about yourself.
- Begin dating again when you're ready. Have friends set you up, and
go to all those parties you might otherwise skip.
- Analyse what went wrong in the relationship only after you have
rebuilt your self-esteem. If you attempt to do this soon, you're headed
for another downward spiral.
- Remember the good aspects of the relationship(there must have been
some), and then get excited about the new direction your life is suddenly
taking. Change can be really awesome you KNOW!!!!!!
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